This past weekend we were at my teen daughter’s basketball awards banquet. She’s homeschooled and all the girls on her team are homeschooled. Because it’s a homeschool team they have no home gymnasium, no home court to play their games, and the girls come from all over the place to be part of this team.

Hard work is rewarding work

The team is really good and they made it to nationals and placed 6th in the nation for homeschool girl’s basketball teams. As the coach spoke about the girls and some of the girls spoke about their experience playing a common theme arose for me. Hard work. The coach mentioned how hard the girl’s worked. The girls mentioned how rewarding that hard work was.

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I didn’t notice one girl say they wish it wasn’t hard, nor did I hear them complain about it. These teenage girls all embraced the hard work that it took to be successful on their team. One girl not only worked hard on the court, but drove over an hour for each practice and worked two jobs so she could afford the travel and cost associated with it.

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If these teenage girls understand that it requires hard work to become successful, and to experience the great things they experienced, then why do grown folks complain and let it deter them when they hear marriage is hard work? That is something that amazes me. It is widely accepted and expected that hard word is required to achieve good things in life, except when it comes to marriage.

Marriage is hard work, and that’s a good thing

When it comes to marriage there is a problem with the words “hard work” being included in the same sentence. I’m thankful marriage is hard work. I’m thankful marriage is hard. From a man’s perspective when a woman is “easy” we don’t want to marry her.

So, I want to encourage you to not let the phrase “marriage is hard work” scare you. Appreciate the work you put in to make your marriage great realizing that nothing good in life comes without some type of work. This includes marriage.

What Are You Willing to Go Through for Your Marriage?

The divorce rates are well publicized via many different sources. Without me saying the percentage, you probably already have that 50 percent clip in your head. It is no secret that marriages fail just about as much as they last.

It seems to me that couples just don’t fight to honor their commitment of staying married through the ups and downs. Irreconcilable differences is the reason cited for many divorces. Basically they couldn’t agree on something or even agree to disagree, so they called it quits.

Divorce hurts

It’s painful to me. My wife and I have witnessed many divorces and splits, and it’s hurtful to see couples not be able to make it. We don’t take our marriage for granted, nor the fact that we are still together after some very rough times. Fighting for our marriage, and fighting for other marriages is something we have become very passionate about.

And it is so encouraging when you see a couple go above and beyond for marriage. A recent article on Your Tango is a great example of that. A couple who had been together for 28 years finally got married. You might be thinking that isn’t such a big deal. A lot of people are together for years before getting married.

Fighting to be together

That is true, but the difference with this couple is the bride was diagnosed with terminal cancer. So the ceremony had to be done in a hospital while she was in her hospital bed. They had so many reasons not to fight for marriage, but they didn’t let any reason stop them.

It’s this type of heart and mindset that I think is needed in marriages today. The mindset that nothing will keep the marriage from happening, nothing will break the marriage apart, and nothing is as important as their marriage relationship.

I’m not sure how long this couple will have together as a married couple, but they have encouraged me and let me know that marriage is valuable. I’m hoping other couples are encouraged as well.